“We shall have no better conditions in the future if we are satisfied with all those which we have at present” –

When people find out I’m theAmerica’s #1 Mental Fitness Coach they often ask how advanced hypnotherapy (hypnosis) and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) can help them. My answer is they can help you take control of your life, almost instantly. That often gets me the “Huh?” response. I tell them you can use them to change how you experience the world and therefore take control of your life.

How to Use NLP to Take Control of Your Life

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) tells us that there are three factors in control of how the world appears to you. These are 1) your physiology or how you use your body, 2) your language patterns or the words you use to define the world and yourself and 3) your beliefs or the things people and events you focus on. If you shift any of these three factors you can instantly change how you experience the world.

How to Shift Your Physiology

Your physiology is the way you carry your body. In order to have certain feelings you use your body a certain way. You can call this a body pattern.

When you shift the way you use your body, the way you move, the way you breathe, your face, the way you talk you send different signals to your brain which shifts the way you think.

For example, when you feel down you hold your body a certain way. You might feel a heavy weight on your shoulders and tightness in your upper back or neck. Your head may be slumped forward and your shoulders might be curled downwards. This is the pattern you have for feeling down.

But you also have a pattern for feeling good. You probably sit up straight, your head is more erect, your shoulders are more relaxed, all of these contribute to your feeling up.

You know what’s funny? You can put your body into one of these positions any time you want, shifting the way the world appears to you. Now you are seeing the elephant in a different way.

How to Shift Your Language Patterns

What you tell yourself, also known as self talk, has a direct affect on how you experience the world. These are also known as language patterns. Most people consistently use negative self talk instead of positive self talk. Why? It’s because that’s what we’ve all been taught in school, at home and by the media. But you can learn to shift your language patterns almost instantly using positive daily affirmations.

What’s a positive affirmation? A positive affirmation is something positive you tell yourself over and over again, out loud. When I say my positive affirmations I also use my physiology to put my body into a receptive state.

For example, a positive affirmation I use every day is “I totally and unconditionally love and accept myself just the way I am!”  I say this, and other positive affirmations out loud as I am getting ready to do my morning Yoga and Qigong practice. As I say them I put my body into a positive state by standing straight, breathing deeply, and waving my arms around. Yes, it might seem strange but it works. By the time I get going I am feeling great and ready to take on the world! By doing this instead of getting up and watching the news like many people do I have shifted my experience of the world to the one I have chosen instead of the one chosen by my environment.

How to Shift Your Focus

Do this exercise for a moment and don’t read the next paragraph until after you do it. Close your eyes and think of the color blue. Think of your favorite shade of blue, think of the blue ocean, the blue sky, the blue of a soft baby’s blanket. Now open your eyes and read the next paragraph.

Now look for the color red. What do you see? You see the color blue everywhere. Why? Because that’s what you’ve been focusing on!

How do you change your focus? By changing the questions you ask yourself.

Most people ask themselves all the wrong questions. For example, when they make a mistake or something doesn’t go the way they would have liked it to they ask, “What’s wrong with me?” That sets their focus. You see, when you give your brain a question it will focus on coming up with an answer. So when you ask “What’s wrong with me?” your brain will focus on all the things you believe are “wrong” with you.

On the other hand if you ask yourself a better question, a question like, “What could I have done differently?” or “What did I learn from this?” your brain will shift it’s perspective and focus on those answers. Again you are experiencing the elephant in a different way

Shift How You Experience Life and Reshape Your Future

One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is the gift of becoming more than who you are already. You are not your past, your past behaviors, or your past events. You are more than that.

The problem most people they try to drive in the future looking in their rear view mirror. What would happen if you drove around town looking in the rear view mirror? You’d crash into everything! That’s the same thing that happens when you try to live your life by telling yourself you are your past. In order to change how you go though life you have to shift how your experience it.

When you start to chose how you use these three factors you can shift the way you experience life, almost instantly. Isn’t it time you began to take control of your life

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Wil Dieck is America’s #1 Mental Health Coach. Think of him as a personal trainer for your mind. He is also the founder of Total Mind Therapy, as system that fuses advanced hypnotherapy (hypnosis) and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) in a manner that helps you rewire your mind so you can reshape your thinking into the long, abundant, positive one you desire. His office is in San Diego, CA. If you would like to schedule a complimentary no risk, free self assessment session with Wil to discover whatAmerica’s #1 Mental Fitness Coach can do for you then call (619) 293-3255 today!

The Six Blind Men and the Elephant

What I teach my clients is that in order to take control of your life you need to be able to quickly shift how you experience life. What does this mean? Let me tell you a story about six blind men that lived together in a village.

One day one of the children ran to tell them, “Hey, there is an elephant in the village.”

Since the six blind men had no idea what an elephant was or might appear like, they said to each other, “Let’s go touch the elephant and find out what an elephant is!” So with the child leading them they went to where the elephant was standing in the village.

The child led the blind men in a way that left them standing around the elephant. Each touched it from where they were standing.

The first blind man touched the elephant’s leg and said, “The elephant is like a pillar.”

The second blind man touched the tail and said, “No, it is like a strong rope.”

The third blind man touched the trunk of the elephant and exclaimed, “Oh, no! An elephant is like a thick branch of a tree.”

The fourth blind man touched the elephant’s ear and said, “An elephant is like a big hand fan.”

The fifth man touched the elephant’s belly and said, “No, an elephant is more like a huge wall.”

The sixth blind man touched the tusk and said, “You are all wrong! An elephant is like a solid pipe.”

Each knew that they were right so they began arguing about how the elephant appeared. Since each knew he was right they all began to become agitated and shout at each other.

The village wise man observed this for a little while and then he smiled and shouted, “Stop!”

Startled the blind men stopped arguing and the wise man asked, “What is the matter?”

One of the blind men said, “My friends are mistaken about what the elephant is like.”

The other blind men stated to protest when the wise men shouted “Stop! You are all right!”

“What?” a couple of the blind men exclaimed. Then one asked, “How can we all be right?”

In a soft voice the village wise man calmly explained, “Each of you is right because each one of you have touched different parts of the elephant. From where you are standing the elephant is actually as you described it.”

The wise man told the child who had led them to the elephant to move them to a place where another blind man stood. Each began to say how the elephant appeared when then wise man shouted “Stop” again. You need to wait until we are finished.” Then he had the child shift where the blind men stood four more times.

After their final move each exclaimed, “You are correct, we are all correct about how the elephant appeared,” and they all went away, led by the child, laughing.

It’s All about Shifting Your Perspective

We are all very much like the six blind men. If you only look at life from one perspective you will always experience the world in a similar manner. It’s only when you begin to shift the way you experience the world will the world appear different to you. Learning how to quickly shift your focus allows you to take back control of your life.

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“If you want to succeed in the world must make your own opportunities as you go on. The man who waits for some seventh wave to toss him on dry land will find that the seventh wave is a long time a coming. You can commit no greater folly than to sit by the roadside until some one comes along and invites you to ride with him to wealth or influence.”

Over the years I’ve talked with lots of clients and friends about how the powerful techniques of advanced hypnotherapy (hypnosis) and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) can help you live the life of your dreams. I find that many people have very interesting expectations of these therapies. Some people think that that all they have to do is go through a few sessions and then – whamo – their life changes overnight, magically, with no effort of their own.

Well for those of you that think that all you have to do is to go to a few hypnosis and/or NLP sessions to completely change your life I’m here to inform you that this just isn’t true. Although these therapies can be very powerful for shifting your focus, advanced hypnotherapy and NLP are not substitutes for preparing your mind – and therefore your life – for success. You have to do a little work by deciding on the type of life you want to live and the steps necessary to achieve them. While advanced hypnotherapy and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) can help you with this process it is no substitute for actually sitting down and using your conscious brain to decide what you’d like your life to be like.

Developing a Success Mindset

All experts that I’ve ever talked to or read all agree that your attitude is the most important factor for your success. This means developing a positive mindset. A positive mindset is like a magnet for success, attracting the things you want into your life. On the other hand, a negative mindset keeps you spinning your wheels, getting you nowhere or even causing your life to go backwards.

5 Steps for Developing a Rock Solid Positive Mental Attitude

Today we’re going to look at a few simple strategies you can use to motivate yourself and develop a rock solid positive mental attitude. Using these strategies you’ll be able to use your conscious and subconscious mind together to develop the type of positive mindset you need to achieve your goals and dreams.

Let’s take a look at the 5 steps you need to take for developing a rock solid positive attitude:

1. Write out your ultimate dreams

When you are doing what you were made to do life is a wonderful journey. If you are not, life can seem to be just tedious, hard work. When you write out your goals and dreams you develop a map to take you on that wonderful journey.

Let’s face it; nobody is motivated merely to pay their bills. All great achievers had a vision, a dream which guided them along their path to success. To do this you have to understand what inspires you and use it to jumpstart your motivation. When you know what you want you are inspired to maintain the drive necessary to overcome obstacles and find success.

Write out a list of your ultimate dreams. After you’ve done this ask yourself if what you are presently doing is taking you in that direction, are you on the right path? If you are, then keep at it.

If you don’t feel like you’re on the right path, perhaps it’s time for a change. Maybe there are deeper reasons why you’ve felt a lack of motivation. Get feedback; find someone to help you reflect on what these reasons might be. This is where hypnosis and NLP can be very beneficial. Once you’ve discovered your blocks you can then decide on how to overcome them so you can move in the direction of your goals.  Now you have to…

2. Surround yourself with people who have a positive mental attitude

“He that lieth down with dogs shall rise up with fleas” – Benjamin Franklin in Poor Richard’s Almanack.[

What Ben was telling us was you are who you hang around with. When you hang around positive and inspiring people, you’re more likely to adopt a positive mindset and go for your goals with enthusiasm. Negative people, on the other hand, tend to make you negative also.

You might be saying, “I don’t have any choice I have to be around these people, at least until _____ “. If you must be around people that continually bring you down, do your best to avoid taking what they say to heart. If you can, try avoiding having conversations with them altogether. Deep in your heart you know that they are wrong. If you can’t avoid them, keep the peace as best as you can and then move on.

3. Take a leap of faith

Orison Swett Marden once said, “Believe with all of your heart that you will do what you were made to do.”

Just as you can never wait until the lights are all green to start on a journey, you also can’t wait until all conditions are right to start living the life of your dreams. The best way to develop a positive mental attitude is sometimes just jump right in. Don’t let fear prevent you from taking the first steps towards your goals and dreams. Keep in mind that it is the people who take action that find success. As you take action you’ll start to see the results of your efforts and your attitude will only improve. Remember that the difference between success and failure is the action you take or fail to take.

4. Keep focused on your goals

Sometimes I have clients who come to me and tell me that their life is miserable. Some of these people are quite wealthy and have great families. Why do they feel their life is miserable? It’s because of what they focus on.

Your focus plays an important role in your attitude. When you maintain a focus on what you want, the type of life, your goals, they drive you toward success. This also makes it easier to have a positive, optimistic mental attitude. On the other hand if you focus on the negatives in your life, it can lead you into being unmotivated and uncaring.

5. There is no failure – only feedback

“I have not failed 10,000 times. I have successfully found 10,000 ways that will not work.” – Thomas Edison

Many people believe if they make a mistake they’ve failed. But this simply isn’t true, in fact, a major presuppositions of NLP is the same as whatEdisontold us above, “There is no failure, only feedback.

Look you’re only human and you will make a mistake or two from time to time. When this happens ask yourself “What did I learn from this?” This will give you a solution focus instead of a problem focus, which is a lot more useful in achieving your goals.

You Can Motivate Yourself to Achieve Success

Using these tools will lead you to a positive successful life. Remember, a healthy positive attitude is a combination of inspiration, positive thinking and inner motivation. Put these strategies to work and watch your success soar!

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Wil Dieck is the founder of Total Mind Therapy the fusion of hypnosis and NLP into one powerful system that has helped hundreds of people, just like you, make quick and lasting behavioral shifts. He is also the author of the report “Secrets of Your Subconscious Mind” that you can download at his website. If you are interested in learning more about how Total Mind Therapy can be beneficial to you call (619) 752-0530. You will be scheduled for a risk free, no obligation phone assessment that will help you determine how you can find the success you desire.

What types of shifts? Hypnosis and NLP can help you overcome fears, pains, stresses and anxieties. They can help you break bad habits like smoking and develop good ones like exercising. They can help reduce the symptoms of some diseases. Hypnosis and NLP can help you think differently so that you can eliminate your mental blocks to success while encouraging you to take successful actions you may have avoided in the past.

In short, hypnosis can help catapult you into living the life you desire!

7 Benefits of Hypnosis and NLP

In this article I’d like to explore 7 benefits you can receive from hypnosis and NLP. Let’s dig in.

1. Reduce your pain

Do you have a physical condition that causes you a lot of pain, such as back or shoulder injury? Are you, like millions of other Americans suffering adverse side effects from your pain medications? Using hypnosis and NLP you can reduce or actually eliminate your pain.

Many doctors have been exposed to hypnosis for pain management. Ask your doctor about using self-hypnosis as part of your pain therapy. There are a growing number of doctors and physical therapists that recommend this over taking drugs for effective pain control. Hypnosis can even help you with the pain of severe injuries so that your body can heal quicker, again without the side effects of drugs.

If you’re contemplating surgery, ask your doctor to recommend an anesthesiologist who uses hypnosis instead of drugs. Hypnosis has been accepted by the American Medical Association as a viable anesthetic during surgery for over 50 years. Many dentists use it instead of anesthesia. Also, if you’re expecting, learn how you can use hypnosis for childbirth and avoid potentially hazardous side effects of drug anesthesia.

2. Overcome fears and anxieties

One of the most profound uses of especially NLP is helping people overcome their fears. Perhaps you have a fear of flying or you’re nervous about speaking in public. These types of fears can affect many aspects of your life and career. Many fears can even result in nightmares, but you can free yourself of these with hypnosis and NLP. Many times one or two sessions can help you eliminate your fears completely.

3. Eliminate bad habits

Do you smoke, overeat, bite your nails or just put things off all the time? Using hypnosis and NLP you can develop better eating and exercise habits so you can lose weight and keep it off, stop biting your fingernails, and avoid procrastination altogether. Many people have gotten rid of their pesky habits by using hypnosis and so can you.

4. Sail past mental blocks and on to success

Have you ever seen a runner who does very well but when the big race comes they pull up lame? The fear of success can do that to almost anyone. If you find that you’re always coming up just short of success in every endeavor then hypnosis and NLP can help you overcome it and succeed. You can discover your mental blocks to success and stop them using hypnosis and NLP.

5. Get rid of your stress

Has too much stress bogged you down lately? Stress affects everyone and can cause serious health issues. One of the most common things many of my clients say to me after their first hypnosis session is “I haven’t felt that relaxed in years.” The reason is they haven’t allowed themselves to relax. Hypnosis and NLP are both great ways to relieve stress. A hypnosis session can help your mind deal with stress in positive ways so you feel refreshed, energetic, and healthy again.

6. Conquer your addictions

Do you have an addiction to nicotine, caffeine, sugar, soda, or more serious drugs? One of the biggest reasons people come to me is to help them quit smoking. I have also helped many people deal with other addictions such as to alcohol and other recreational drugs. Hypnosis and NLP are effective tools in helping overcoming addictions so you can take back control of your life – permanently.

7. Find your lost memories

I have had clients who have needed to remember where they have left important documents or wanted to remember a person from their past. If you’re unable to remember something of great importance, there is a chance that a traumatic experience has blocked your access to it. In these cases a hypnosis session can be very helpful; it will help you access your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is where those memories have been stored, and a relaxing hypnosis session can be your key to unlock them.

Are There Any Negatives to Hypnosis?

Hypnosis and NLP are not cure alls. They cannot make anyone do anything they don’t want to do. The biggest problem you may encounter with hypnosis is you have to want the desired change to occur in order to enjoy permanent results. For example, do you really want to quit smoking? If you don’t, then even hypnosis and NLP won’t work to stop your addiction.

Remember, with hypnosis, you’re still awake and in control. No one can make you do anything you don’t want to do! So if you find that you are lukewarm or you want to change because someone else wants you to change its best you wait. These are the times when you will want to work on increasing your desire for the change you’re trying to effect before you use hypnosis and NLP to help you make the change.

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1. Set your goal.

2. Monitor your results (feedback)

3. Adjust your behavior until you achieve your desired outcome

Like I mentioned in part one, I have clients who come to me looking for hypnotherapy and Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP to change their lives while having no idea of the result they are looking for. In order to get anything in life you have to set an outcome. That was part 1. Now let’s look at part 2.

Monitoring Your Results (feedback)

As Albert Einstein once said, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” What I believe he was saying is that when things aren’t working the way you hoped they would you have to do something different. That’s what the steps monitoring your results and adjusting your behavior are all about.

It’s the only way anyone can reach their destination.

Since I live in San Diego I like to use this analogy. Let’s say you are flying from San Diego to Hawaii. Hawaii is your destination or outcome.

After your plane takes off and is in the air your pilot sets the plane’s controls on autopilot. Its job is to take you to Hawaii but as you fly toward Hawaii the headwinds blow your plane off course a degree or two. The plane’s GPS understands this and sends feedback to the plane’s autopilot.

This feedback helps the autopilot reset the plane’s course back onto the correct heading toHawaii. This automatic course correction happens constantly as you are traveling toward Hawaii. If it didn’t, you’d miss Hawaii completely and perhaps run out of fuel over the Pacific Ocean. That’s the importance of the autopilot monitoring your plane’s results.

The same goes for you and your goals. It doesn’t matter if you’re planning a trip fromSan DiegotoSan Franciscoor to graduate from college, you need to have a roadmap to your destination. You need to set your destination in your GPS system. That’s why you set goals; they give your system that destination. Goals work like an autopilot and GPS system to keep you moving in the direction you want to go in life. Once you are moving in the direction of your goal then you monitor your results to make sure you get to the right place.

Adjusting Your Behavior

Now that you’re on your way you take the feedback your GPS system is giving you and make corrections. Let’s say that your goal was to change your weight to 135 pounds. You start off doing well, and drop down from 158 to 150 pounds in a month. You’re stoked! Then you go 3 more weeks and find you are now at 151 pounds. What’s going on?

Well, in this case you need to first realize that you need to monitor more than just your weight. How much were you eating the first four weeks in comparison to the next three?  How much exercise were you doing? If you are only monitoring your overall goal, that of obtaining the weight of 135 pounds, you might miss all those other indicators you need, like the calories you eat and burn, in order to reach your ideal body weight goal. So the lesson here is to know what type of feedback you need in order to reach your goal. Once you know all the measurements keeping track of your progress is easy. Knowing what helps keep your progress on track makes it easy to make adjustments. This is the same for any goal.

Your Subconscious Mind is Your GPS System

In most cases your subconscious mind works as your GPS system. This is because over the years you have programmed your subconscious to respond automatically in certain situations. This is actually a good thing in most cases because it let’s your conscious mind do all the reasoning work you need it to do. But sometimes your subconscious mind needs to be rewired. That’s where hypnotherapy and Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP can come in.

Using Hypnotherapy and Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP to Help You Shift Behaviors

If someone forgets to reprogram the GPS system of an airplane to the plane’s new destination you will end up in the wrong part of the world. While you or I might have a great deal of difficulty doing this, to an expert it’s a simple task. You could use a manual to help you but if you had an expert teach you how, you could do it quickly and easily.

The same goes for your own internal GPS system. There are times when you need to reprogram it with updated date. Now this can be fairly simple – if you know how. Using the tools like hypnotherapy and NLP you can make quick and lasting shifts in your behavior. While you can learn these from a book you can shortcut the time needed to make these shifts by finding an expert.

You Can Start Transforming Your Life Today!

You now have all the steps needed for setting and achieving any goal. All you have to do is put the system to use. While it may seem a little difficult at first, once you get used to it you’ll be able to make those shifts quickly and easily. Of course if you want to speed up your results you can get help from someone who has experience. They can make your trip a lot easier.

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Three Steps to Setting and Achieving Goals

Setting and achieving goals is actually simple if you follow three steps. These steps are:

1. Set your goal.

In NLP this is known as an outcome. To do this you need to have a clear idea of what you want.

2. Monitor your results (feedback)

Having a clear understanding what you are doing and the results you are getting as a result of your efforts. In NLP this is known as sensory acuity.

3. Adjust your behavior until you achieve your desired outcome

As you receive your results you need to be willing and able to change your behavior until you get the result (outcome) you are searching for. In NLP this is known as flexibility.

Today we’re going to talk about developing a well formed outcome.

5 Steps to a Well-formed Outcome

In order to get anything or go anywhere in life you have to have a direction or an outcome because if you don’t know where you’re going anywhere you end up is just fine. You also have to shape your outcome in a way that motivates you to achieve it. To do this you have to have what Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP calls a well formed outcome.

How to Achieve Your Goals

As I already pointed out, in order to quickly achieve your goals you need to create a well formed outcome. A well formed outcome is one that contains the following criteria:

1. Positive – Your goal has to be stated in the positive. Why? This is because your subconscious mind can only understand a negative by turning it into a positive.

For example, don’t think of an elephant. Whatever you do, don’t think of an elephant. Now close your eyes. What are you thinking of? An elephant of course. Your subconscious mind cannot not think of an elephant.

The same goes for any goal you set. Let’s say you are struggling with finances and they are stressing you out so you state your goal as “I’m not going to be stress out by my finances.”

What does your subconscious mind hear? “I’m going to be stressed out by my finances.” A better way to state your goal would be “I am approaching my finances in a calm and collected manner.”

Always ask yourself, “What is it that I really want?”

That leads us to number 2…

2.  Personal – You have to be the active participant in achieving the goal. Your outcome has to be reasonably within your control. If your outcome is a primarily a result of other people’s efforts it is not well formed.

Here’s an example many people can relate to. Let’s say your spouse or significant other who you love dearly has a personality that you don’t appreciate so you approach them and tell them about it and then ask them to change their behavior. How does that work? We all know that this approach usually doesn’t work. Instead figure out what you need to do in order to draw out the response you are looking for.

Ask yourself “What will I do to achieve my outcome?”

Remember, your outcome or goal needs to be about you and your behavior, not someone else’s.

Now that you have established a personal goal it then you need to experience it in the…

3. Present – You need to experience your goal as if it’s already accomplished. You need to determine how you will know when you’ve achieved your goal. How will the achievement of that goal that look, feel and sound like?  This gets your imagination in the attraction mode pulling your goals toward you.

For example if your goal is to get into shape and be slimmer what will that look, feel and sound like? Are you a certain weight, a certain pant or dress size or working out a certain number of times a week? What are people telling you about your appearance? How does that make you feel?

Ask yourself “How will this look, feel and sound like when I’ve accomplished my goal?”

Now to be sure this is a well formed goal you need to be sure that it is…

4. Specific – Your outcome has to be something specific, not fuzzy. For example, people when come to me and tell me “I want to be happy” my first question to them is, “What does being happy mean?” Most of the time they can’t explain what being happy means to them. This is a fuzzy goal

You goal needs to have a real and tangible outcome. Let’s say that you are unhappy with your work situation. You feel you are not getting paid enough and working too many hours. Instead of “I want to be happy” you would say “I want to work at a job that pays me $100,000 a year and that allows me to be home 3 nights a week and weekends and gives me 4 weeks of vacation that I use every year.” Now your subconscious mind understands what it is that you really want.

When you are developing a specific goal use the journalism model to create it. Ask questions that determine the who, what, when, where, and how of your outcome. This leads us to number 5…

5. Right-sized – Your outcome needs to be both large enough to motivate you as well as something that you can believe you can accomplish.

If you have a goal that is too large it can and will de-motivate you. Ask yourself “What is preventing me from doing this?” Once you figure the answer out write out your smaller, more doable goals.

For example, if your goal is to write a book, unless you’ve written a book before (and most times even if you have) this can seem like an overwhelming task. What you need to do is break the large outcome into smaller, more easily achievable tasks.

So in this case the large outcome of writing a book might be broken down into writing three pages a day or one chapter of 15 pages a week. These outcomes can seem very doable and will build up to accomplish your large goal.

On the other hand if the outcome is too small, like cleaning the garage, then ask yourself, “If I do this what will I get from it.” Now remember, as we discussed in number 2, this has to be about you. So if your significant other has asked you to clean up the garage you have to decide what you’ll get out of it, things like being able to find your stuff easier or being able to park your car without running them over.

So when setting your outcome, ask yourself, “Is this the right-sized outcome?”

That’s How to Set an Outcome

There you have it, the first step of how to achieve your goals. By using these 5 criteria for setting and achieving your well formed outcome or goals you are creating goals that will motivate you, goals you’ll want to achieve.

Next time we’ll talk about step number 2, monitoring your results.

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About the Author

Wil Dieck is the author of “Discover the Secrets of you Subconscious Mind”. He is also the founder of Total Mind Therapy, a system that fuses hypnotherapy and Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP into one powerful mind therapy. He is a leading authority in postive change hypnosis. His office is in San Diego, CA. If you are interested in how Total Mind Therapy can help you in setting and achieving your goals call (619) 293-3255 today. You will be scheduled for a risk free, no charge phone assessment that will give you answers that will help you set your goals and achieve your dreams.